<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5169369568113737732</id><updated>2011-04-21T20:54:24.957-07:00</updated><category term='Coming'/><category term='Carter'/><category term='sore'/><category term='feelings'/><category term='out'/><category term='human'/><category term='Gordon'/><title type='text'>Coming out as human.</title><subtitle type='html'>This conversation starter is for those who wake up to their old values wearing thin and want to break out from the prison of their own mind. Gays and lesbians 'come out'. Bunyan's Pilgrim felt trapped but realised the key to his escape was 'in his own breast'. Unless we're complacent or blind to our predicament or dumbed down by religion we too can find our way into a world of new values though the going can be tough and the effort enormous.</subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://amicus.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5169369568113737732/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://amicus.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>Gordon Carter</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17050815124414979105</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='31' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_aOOi4ap6420/TEHzL9G3v1I/AAAAAAAAAug/yYqfHb9etyM/S220/Ruskin+007.jpg'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>2</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5169369568113737732.post-1965379800198429560</id><published>2008-02-01T14:43:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2008-02-01T15:41:25.189-08:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='out'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Coming'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='feelings'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='sore'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Carter'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Gordon'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='human'/><title type='text'>Video Introduction - Coming out as human</title><content type='html'>&lt;object width="320" height="266" class="BLOG_video_class" id="BLOG_video-5d9846b66f723b47" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/get_player"&gt;&lt;param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF"&gt;&lt;param name="allowfullscreen" value="true"&gt;&lt;param name="flashvars" value="flvurl=http://v3.nonxt4.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3D5d9846b66f723b47%26itag%3D5%26app%3Dblogger%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1330065046%26sparams%3Did,itag,ip,ipbits,expire%26signature%3D4CF64F04E2D9E73B524B182B28E819EE14AE75B4.A462B9DC88E8092BDC0D976FF7CC67A7AF5CF48%26key%3Dck1&amp;amp;iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3D5d9846b66f723b47%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3DKy4YuiNoSIW4C2CKwzXVkFF_WUs&amp;amp;autoplay=0&amp;amp;ps=blogger"&gt;&lt;embed src="http://www.youtube.com/get_player" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"width="320" height="266" bgcolor="#FFFFFF"flashvars="flvurl=http://v3.nonxt4.googlevideo.com/videoplayback?id%3D5d9846b66f723b47%26itag%3D5%26app%3Dblogger%26ip%3D0.0.0.0%26ipbits%3D0%26expire%3D1330065046%26sparams%3Did,itag,ip,ipbits,expire%26signature%3D4CF64F04E2D9E73B524B182B28E819EE14AE75B4.A462B9DC88E8092BDC0D976FF7CC67A7AF5CF48%26key%3Dck1&amp;iurl=http://video.google.com/ThumbnailServer2?app%3Dblogger%26contentid%3D5d9846b66f723b47%26offsetms%3D5000%26itag%3Dw160%26sigh%3DKy4YuiNoSIW4C2CKwzXVkFF_WUs&amp;autoplay=0&amp;ps=blogger"allowFullScreen="true" /&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/5169369568113737732-1965379800198429560?l=amicus.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='enclosure' type='video/mp4' href='http://www.blogger.com/video-play.mp4?contentId=5d9846b66f723b47&amp;type=video%2Fmp4' length='0'/><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://amicus.blogspot.com/feeds/1965379800198429560/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=5169369568113737732&amp;postID=1965379800198429560' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5169369568113737732/posts/default/1965379800198429560'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5169369568113737732/posts/default/1965379800198429560'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://amicus.blogspot.com/2008/02/video-introduction-coming-out-as-human.html' title='Video Introduction - Coming out as human'/><author><name>Gordon Carter</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17050815124414979105</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='31' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_aOOi4ap6420/TEHzL9G3v1I/AAAAAAAAAug/yYqfHb9etyM/S220/Ruskin+007.jpg'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5169369568113737732.post-3133742912505221587</id><published>2007-07-29T05:43:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2008-02-19T07:31:54.082-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Coming out with a new resilience and confidence.</title><content type='html'>&lt;a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_aOOi4ap6420/R1Jy3oVKGII/AAAAAAAAAZo/NwQMzZtGNGI/s1600-R/gc.jpg"&gt;&lt;img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5139296424827689090" style="margin: 0px 10px 10px 0px; float: left;" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_aOOi4ap6420/R1Jy3oVKGII/AAAAAAAAAZo/-k5YRqrWJdE/s200/gc.jpg" border="0" /&gt;&lt;/a&gt; This venture is an open invitation to anyone who finds their old core values and meanings of life wearing thin and losing their usefulness.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;My coming out has taken some forty years. Yet only as I make sense of whatever crops up, even years after the event, can I write it up. You'll find snippets of it in later in the blog. &lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p&gt;This approach may help anyone who is bothered by something they don't understand. Maybe you feel trapped or find someone is a pain in the neck; by writing of or talking through an episode of the encounter you do well to focus on one snippet of that experience. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;div&gt;But you may be infected with rules of who must be obeyed and who must not be upset. With the emotions that get aroused this can be traumatic as all hell is let loose.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In writing a snippet don't try too hard or take on too much. Having lived under the cloud of what you're used to for many years coming out will be tough. There will be days when you are shit scared of coming to terms with what you find is depressing you and might want to run for cover.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;But those who've made big promises and are trapped in or lumbered with commitments may well be fearful of being eaten alive. Yet the new resources and skills we need in coming out are free for the taking. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;a href="http://nqsw.blogspot.com/"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;   &lt;span class="important-link boxed" style="margin-left: 10px; font-size:130%;"&gt;Reflect on newly qualified social workers experience&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://gordon-carter.blogspot.com/"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;   &lt;span class="important-link boxed" style="margin-left: 10px; font-size:130%;"&gt;New resources link&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://housetrained.blogspot.com/"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="important-link boxed" style="margin-left: 10px; font-size:130%;"&gt;Link to new skills, ToM&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/5169369568113737732-3133742912505221587?l=amicus.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5169369568113737732/posts/default/3133742912505221587'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5169369568113737732/posts/default/3133742912505221587'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://amicus.blogspot.com/2007/07/blog-has-life-of-its-own-i-learned-ot.html' title='Coming out with a new resilience and confidence.'/><author><name>Gordon Carter</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/17050815124414979105</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='31' src='http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_aOOi4ap6420/TEHzL9G3v1I/AAAAAAAAAug/yYqfHb9etyM/S220/Ruskin+007.jpg'/></author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_aOOi4ap6420/R1Jy3oVKGII/AAAAAAAAAZo/-k5YRqrWJdE/s72-c/gc.jpg' height='72' width='72'/></entry></feed>
